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Originally Posted By C

I left my ex-boyfriend when I was 3 months pregnant with my son. I found out he was a pathological lier and had been slowly steeling my money and property. I also found out that he had a lengthy prison record! Shortly after I kicked him out he was arrested and went yet again to jail. I never wanted my son to know such a man (he had an 11 year old daughter at the time from his first marriage who he owed 16k in back child support to. Anyway, I never put him on the birth certificate and that helped but he never tried to contact us anyway. When I met my husband my son was 18 months old and he wanted to adopt him. I spoke to the local courts and they said all I had to do was publish the adoption in the paper in the town in which I lived when I gave birth for 3 weeks and mail a registered letter to both his last known address and DSS (to make sure his wasn't a missing child) and the adoption wen't through uncontested without any issue when my son was 3. He is now 8 and my husband is and always has been Daddy. My only issue now is the fear of the day he starts with questions. He is the only one in the family with black hair and brown eyes.
Good luck