[sunnyandi13]

MrNMrsD -
I can't speak for every state, but I am agreeing with the fact of up-front disclosure... I remember filling out paperwork to begin the background checks, etc. at the completion of the classes (gives you time to reconsider, etc.)

My husband had something similar in his past, although there was a greater time lapse... when he was in the Navy, he was accused of spousal abuse (previous marriage that ended horribly!) - the real truth of the matter was that his ex-wife hit him up side the head with a frying pan during an argument (fourteen stitches to prove it ) and without thinking, he slugged her for it (bad reaction, but kinda understandable?)... long story short, he sought treatment on base, she went to the local hospital and they turned it in as suspected spousal abuse - he was charged with assault in the civilian courts, but somehow the Navy got involved and his punishment was actually through military channels. But, the point of the story is that we were able to sucessfully prove our case in that he was young and there were extenuating circumstances. With up front disclosure and a copy of his naval records from that incident we were approved.

Again, I think it all depends upon your hubby's behavior since them... if he's not been in any more trouble, you all have good references and you can demonstrate that it was truly a "bar fight" and not "child abuse", I think you'll be fine.

Just wanted to give you a little reassurance that skellies in the closet don't always get you denied...

God bless you and welcome to the crazy, wonderful world of foster-adopt!