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Originally Posted By Dianna

Debby, I wish you the very best of luck with the task you have undertaken. My heart goes out to you. We adopted twice and the second time it didn't work out. Our family has all but disintregrated and after 3 years, I made the excruciating decision to place our youngest daughter in out-of-home placement. I was blessed with knowing an exceptional foster family who provides the structure, consistency and temperment to take FAE, RAD, Oppositional Defiant, special needs kids. At first it was a diagnostic and respite placement for a year. Now we are developing a good idea of what our child needs. I too feel like a failure and my uneducated extended family agrees.

For some reason God has placed this child in my hands to do the absolute best I can. This is looking like keeping her in this specialized foster home environment and keeping a connection with our family. This kind of visiting connection works for her and us. I read about a similar situation in Adoptive Families Magazine. And for some lucky reason, the foster family has decided to switch to long term care.

Although I am not the person to put sunshine in this child's world, I am somehow instrumental in opening the curtains. I hope the best possible outcome for you and your child becomes apparent soon. Best Wishes and Prayers