Hi again
Oh yeah I'm with you on the child abuse thing. I watch ER too, and yes tho' it is only a TV programme it does bring up a lot of emotions. I would be into fostering too, but havent had that discussion with dh yet. Not sure he would be keen, he is more nervous about parenting than I am...less time around kids than me (I have 5 nephews).
We are lucky that we are quite different, he is into sport and I'm not really - I was brought up around art and books and beaches - he's not keen on swimming - so I like to think we'd bring lots of options to our children, and it wouldnt matter that they may not be our own, coz we are very different so I think we cover many of the bases...if that makes sense.
I just want the chance to make it happen.
Coffee_pls - I admire your spirit considering adopting a child of a different ethnicity, we decided no to that...felt it was just one more hurdle we didnt want the child to have to face...looking at us (pale-faced) and wondering where it came from. I see it as a public display of difference...thats not to say it cant be managed well, just that it's not for us.
As for the profile........that was just the hardest thing! In the end we went for lots of photos too (some of which I would like to change, but havent gotten around to it yet) . It really was a lesson in compromising (which our relationship is, becos we are so different)...I remember an email from one of the people in our ed days who said she thought her and her hubby would end up with a profile each, and maybe different children...which cracked me up coz it sure was like that for us too.
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