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Honestly I find that being a foster & adoptive parent is easier than going through infertility treatments. The amount of tears I've cried each month that I didn't get pregnant would easily flood a bathtub. It was extremely emotionally draining on me.

Fostercare is somewhat less emotionally draining, because in the mean time you're a mother and so busy with your children and their issues. There is really little time to get sad and cry because you don't have bios. I know it has been difficult for us to have children return to biofamily. But we knew they wouldn't stay forever.

But with infertility it was always, hmmm maybe this month we did it. it worked only to have month after month of failure.

I think the hardest part of fostercare has been when my son's biomom had a baby, it was supposed to come to us and went elsewhere. (Really long messy story where there was a lack of communication among people within the state agency). Anyway I felt like I lost a baby. It's been the only child that I really felt like should ahve been mine, other than the 2 sons we've adopted.