[mom2GRLC]

Ok....I have some questions!!!

We are adopting a 3 year old girl through fostercare that we have had for over 2 years. Her birthparents signed over their rights. We are hoping to have an open adoption (nothing set in stone...but our hopes are)with letters(as often as desired), Phone calls(every other month), Visits(1-4 times a year).

Do you think having an open adoption would be beneficial for her in the long run? Would it be confusing? Would it be to difficult emotionally?

Do you think giving her a new name would be hard on her latter on in life(she likes the new name right now). We are also considering putting her first name in her middle name so she would have 4 names(would that be to confusing for her...with 4 names?).

We also have 2 other adopted children, that have very little or no contact with birth family. Will that be hard on our other kids..to see her have a relationship with her birthfamily...when they are unable to?

Were you ever confused where you belonged? Why you were adopted? Did you ever feel like you have to be 2 different people. One for the birth family and a dfferent person for the adoptive family?

If there was one thing you wished you knew about your birthfamily...when you were growing up...what was it?