[mom2GRLC]

We did both at the same time.

I also tried Clomid for a while by itself then in combination with Metforman. It never worked well enough for me to even have one egg that was big enough to be released. I maxed out on the clomid and my next step was $$$Injections and $$$$surgery, so we decided to put all that on hold for now and just foster adopt.

We now have had 36 kids in our home in 3 years. 2 children we adopted last year and one we will be adopting in a week.

We have been so blessed through adoption. Yet I still feel that earnest desire to be pregnant and have at least one bio-child. Whenever I see a pregnant woman around(all the time) I still wish that could be me.

We will start infertility stuff when our youngest is a little older. Until then we are still hoping and not preventing(that things will happen naturally).

That being said....fostering in general was a very emotional roller coaster. Mainly because you did have the children in your home..you grew attatched to them and then had to let them go...sometimes at a moments notice. It was also a blessing because it filled that whole in our hearts and home...just having an infant to take care of. It continued to give us hope and experience in parenting.

We have been blessed with 3 beautiful children during this time...yet at the same time...fostering is very difficult emotionally. You learn to protect your heart by not allowing yourself to trully fall in love with the child as your own....always keeping in your mind that they might leave. So when we did get our adoptive kids it was very difficult to get past that protective layer in our hearts and really allow ourselves to love them as our own...believing they would stay forever. It wasn't until the adoptions were finalized before we could really relax and have peace of mind that they were truly ours.

Also the first baby you have.....does get all the excitement. With the first baby we had...it was so exciting to see all the first things....then with baby after baby after baby...those special moments were still neat...but didn't have that flash of excitment that we had with our first foster baby. I do wish the first baby we had could have been our forever child and not one that we had to say goodbye to after 6 months of bonding and watching her grow.

I'm not trying to discourage you from fostering....it has been a life changing wonderful experience for us. I would just take things slow. We got so busy that at times we would have 5 kids under the age of 4. It was so much fun but also so time consuming and draining. It was just so hard to say no(for me) because I always would wonder...."what if this child is meant to be mine...If I say no I might miss out on that opportunity".

Ultimately it is up to you. I'm glad I didn't waist all that time doing the infertility stuff before fostering because I would have missed out on my 3 kids I do have.