[jen663]

Both of our daughters ( bio sibs) were high risk foster/adopt. We have always been honest with them about thier birth family issues and the reasons "why" they were placed. They are pre-adolescents and we have begun to get into the details, due to drugs and alcohol issues with both bio parents. They understand the complications of using. They also understand the their disabilities are due to drug use. They are very mature and ask questions that sometimes throw me for a loop! Unfortunately, the CW wasn't totally honest with us BEFORE our adoption ( 5 yrs ago) and we learned the truth about our oldest through many behavior/educational/social troubles. IF they would've been honest with us, we could've gotten her mental health help earlier and maybe her suffering would'nt have been so great. They were fully aware of her issues and problems when she was placed, and subsequently moved multiple times before she came to us. They chose to hide it, and deny there were problems. This only led to her and our family suffering through some very hard times.[/