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Hi Coffee_Please (ChelseaCFA and LoubieLou if you are still out there).
That is such a laugh as that is exactely what we thought! My DH was so worried about some guy turning up on our doorstep saying that he was the "birth father" and he had "rights". The course really cleared that up for us - I think it was one of the first questions we asked. The word "open" makes it sound like they can just turn up at any time and anywhere.
And you are right, it would be great to have contact. I think about our son's birth mother most days. Where is she, what is she doing, is she okay - has she finally told someone about him? I would just love to show her what a beautiful special boy she has created and show her just how much love he is receiving, and of course tell her that we worship the ground she walks on for giving us such a precious gift. But alas, for the time being it is not to be - it's all very sad from that aspect.
My thoughts to were to adopt internationally. Surprisingly I've had 3 friends that have adopted in the early years and each time the stats sounded like there were only about 10 babies adopted in NZ in a year - so I thought we had no chance because I thought, incorrectly, that I had the facts. Then when I went to the course I worked out that you had around a 30% chance of adoption (at that time 2001/2002 - and I thought those odds were actually quite good. I imagined they'd be 1000's on the waiting list in one region alone - and yet here they were crying out for applicates.
So Coffee_Please what are the stats like these days? I know it was not a busy year last year, but what is this year like so far - has there been any recent stats?
Richie68
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