[mommy3]

KK -- From our miscarriage and adoption experiences, I fully believe that a failed match and failed adoption often feel the same as miscarriages. We have to grieve and the pain can feel unbearable. When I was miscarrying, all I wanted was to be pregnant again and have it be a bad dream. Unfortunately, these real life issues are so very difficult. I'm so sorry for your loss. It will take time and some good things happening in your life to turn your emotions around. It's also okay to remember the baby who was yours for a little while -- I still remember my due dates for my several pregnancies and think about those babies. I love my children deeply, though, and now can say that I can bear whatever I need to bear so that they can be in my arms. It took many months (and our son's birth) to have a positive perspective, though. Take care, susan