KK we have over the years had several failed adoptions. The most hurtful are the one that we had held the baby named her spent timewith her and then went Home without her. The other a baby that I felt was to be our new son special needs including a new one unknown about before birth and ll.,, but in the end NO we did not get him the story from MY supposed friend the facilitator was that the worker at the hospital in chicago was that she did not like caucason familes adopting african american children., Actuallymuch later found out that My supposed friend whom knew of our financial situation at the time that the fee we were to pay to her referralsource for this situation was the exact same amount that Other couples paid to Her. We had refused to send money to this account number with NO name for the person sh claimed had referreed this case to her and we said NO we are not sending any $$$ until his birthmom signed the paperwork so we would know He was to be our child for sure. Yes we and his birthmom had even named him togethe and all. He I am sure was going to have extensive special needs as he had been prenatally exposed to drugs alcohol and to an std that his birthmother a prostitute had gotten that could leave him with some serious specal need that no way to tell the damage for months after birth. Hang in their let yourself grieve for this child.
And I will keep you in my prayers that your baby is in your arms soon. Take care feel free to email me at
Terrie37@aol.com If you or anyone would like to chat. Take cre
Terrie,Mom to 4 all thru adoption. Live in Nebraska
Adoption specialist for Adopt America Network we help place special needs children of all races, ages etc find forever homes. Most of the children are in state care.