Hi Coffee_Please and Richie68. Nice to be here and have some company
. First I'm a kiwi, married and currently living in UK. However, I'm looking at heading home for IVF (not for a freebie mind, I'm paying!), then if that isn't a goer, we'll move into adoption. Been TTC officially for 5 years now but really I've been waiting all my life. What I've learnt so far is - never give up. I don't mean the well meant phrase we've all heard about 'relax, it will happen when the time is right' - that hasn't helped me, it's too passive and makes me feel like I'm not even clever enough to 'relax' properly. What has helped is stronger advice - to never give up the goal of being a Mum. One way or another - so don't just sit about for years on end waiting for the miracle of pregnancy, get on the case. Ok it took me 3 years, then 2 years of investigations and some health issues to resolve, but we're on the move now. Start with Plan A, and if that isn't working move onto Plan B, C or D - you are so right. That said, Richie68 - six years is a long wait, but I'll bet you will say it was worth every minute! BTW there is quite a difference in approach to adoption in the UK v NZ. Anyway, nice to have some company on this journey. Coffee_Please, sorry I can't give much advice to you about the Adoption process, you're ahead of me on that one. But I sure understand the frustration of the waiting game.
Stay strong.
Chelsea