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Heard something similar
I was 14 when my mother admitted to me she hated children. So I asked her why she adopted me. Her response still stings after all these years: "I don't know, it was stupid."
Thanks, mom! Wonderfully supportive words that all kids want to hear...that it was stupid to raise a child. Ouch!
She was never the warm & fuzzy type, since I can remember. Neither was my dad. Still makes me wonder why two people went through the expensive process to adopt a child, if years later, at least one of them thought it was dumb. I also heard "You are more trouble than you are worth!" There were other mean-spirited phrases too. I grew up absolutely loathing myself. My father asked me once why I hated being me so much, but when you never hear anything good about yourself, how can you learn to love the person you see in the mirror?
They're both still alive & even though they aren't in the best of health & can't bully me physically, their words are no less hurtful. Too bad they didn't just get rid of me. They had ample opportunities to do so, & let them all slide by. :-(
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