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We'd always planned to adopt some day, but wanted the experience of a pregnancy (and maybe a little boy who looks just like his Daddy) first. Well, fast-forward a couple of years past doctors, surgeries, medications, and losses. DH and I went away to discuss our options and, having lost faith with our current doc, decided to go for a second opinion with a new doc. Funny thing, though, was I just couldn't make the call to his office...I kept hanging up or putting it off.

Anyway, my parents and I went out to breakfast right before my mom was having surgery (yet another good excuse not to start with a new doc!). My dad, who I adore and think is pretty wise, says to me "why are you messing around with all this cra*? Why don't you adopt and have your baby that way?" To this day, I am not sure why, but that statement brought me such relief. DH and I spoke later that night (he was ready to move on before I was) and signed up for an info meeting at our agency the next month. While the adoption road has definitely not been easy, it wasn't nearly as overwhelming and all-consuming as fertility treatments were.