I'd like to know more about everyone's decision to adopt. Was there one particular defining moment or was it an idea you had to warm up to? Did you, your spouse, or partner, not feel it right away and take longer to decide it was right for your family? Did you want to adopt since as long as you can remember? I've heard a few out there, but thought it would be nice to group them all together.
For us, short and to the point, it went something like this. We tried to get pg, we did lots of tests, we tried infertility drugs, and never discussed IVF. We contacted Cherokee Nation to be put on a waiting list for a Homestudy for adoption and we waited. We got tired of waiting, called a local SW to do our Homestudy for us and the day she was supposed to come I did a pg test, which came up positive. We cancelled the Homestudy, went through a lot of crap, and lost our little angel. We went back to the RE and had a serious meeting about our options. We took the info with us and decided to have lunch. Across from each other, at Red Robin, we held hands, looked each other in the eye, and at the same time said, "I want to adopt". I started to cry and said I really never wanted to do the IVF and felt adoption was our answer. Hubby whole heartedly agreed and we had a couple of the best burgers we had had in a long time. It was great to be in the same mode, as we almost always have been. We are truly soulmates and we prove it to each other again and again everytime we hit a bump in the road.
