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And yes, not all adoptive parents are perfect. Mine weren't. They're people too. But I love them. And they love me and couldn't imagine my life being any different.
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My a/parents were not perfect either but I believe they did the very best that they could.....what more can one ask for. The difficulties I experienced were not because I was adopted....I have never felt the need or desire to blame my life experiences on that fact. I grew up in a family and all families have their ups and downs....children have good times and bad....adopted children AND biological children.
My desire to search for my birthparents had nothing to do with the parenting skills of my mother and father...
The birth of my daughter just intensified a desire to find out the story of me, not only for myself but for this beautiful child I had just given birth to. I wanted to know my biological family history - for me, it was important. I also appreciate some adoptees have no desire to search and I respect their decision not to.
Respect and understanding that we are all individuals and different things drive us is important to accept.
If your adopted child(ren) do decide to search in the future please don't take it as a personal slight or as a measure of the job you have done as a parent.......in most cases I do not believe this is what propels an adoptee into searching for their biological parents.