[Duchie]

TLee -

My heart goes out to you that you had to endure abuse during your childhood. No child should have to endure abuse.

I think that I'd have to ask myself what do I expect my bfather to do about my past? Well, if you think about it, there's nothing he really can do. I'm sure that he's got a lot of guilt and pain like yourself but in a different way.

Unfortunately as you know we are a lot like clocks. We can go forward, but can't turn back time.

By what you've written, it sounds like your bfather wants to be in your life. When I reunited I had to remind myself that my past is not the same as my bfamily. But our future will be shared together. I know it may sound simple, but if you embrace what you have in front of you and live your life for today and tomorrow, yesterday will be a memory in the distance.

I hope that you can find some peace with this. I know it's tough. Adoption can be heartbreaking and frustrating, but it can also be full of surprises and love.

Hang in there sweetie....

Duchie