[snuffie]

I can definitely understand what you are feeling! A birth cousin treated me the way your bgrandma is treating you.I received a horrible awful terrible letter from her telling me in very blunt terms what she thought of me. THE WOMAN HAD NEVER MET ME!! She didn't know anything about me other than the fact that grandma had given up my bmom and I had searched and found out who my bgrandma was. (My bmom and I both were adoptees.) At first I was livid - wanting to put my boxing gloves on and come out fighting! I wanted to write a nasty letter back. But sanity ruled and I decided that in this situation no response was just better.

I think what bothers me the most is that I won't ever get to tell MY side of the story; to make her understand that the things she said in her letter were so untrue. But then I realized that nothing I could ever say could make her understand because she doesn't want to.

It is frustrating but for my own sanity I came to the conclusion that it is definitely HER loss and HER problem.
She must be a very unhappy person herself.

It is not YOU your grandma is rejecting. I agree with Collette.
It is her memories, the past and something in HER she is so afraid to face.

Collette, my heart aches for you. I have read a lot of your posts and you are an awesome person. Your family does not know what they are missing!

Hugs
Snuffie