[mom2justynsarah]

Hi,

My name is Julie. I am an adoptive mom with a beautiful 4 month old daughter. I also have a bio six year old son. My children are being raised together as brother & sister.

My son was conceived by the miracle of IVF. I was never able to bear another child. Adoption was ALWAYS an option to expand our family. It was never second best or a second choice.

Being that I come from the infertile world, I can tell you that I have quite a few friends who have also adopted. The intense desire to become parents have led us to the path of adoption. We CHERISH our children. They are very much WANTED, & DEEPLY DEEPLY LOVED.

The fact that we did not give birth to our babies, does not take away an ounce of them being our children. It has not affected bonding in any way. It most certainly has not taken away love.

I take offense to adoptees who look upon us as if we are just castaways. Don't you think it hurts us to have you think of us in such a negative light?

A lot of adoptees talk about feelings of abandonment, a hole in your heart..not belonging etc etc. I ask you- where have your PARENTS gone wrong in raising you? I wonder sometimes if it the lack of good solid, loving parenting that causes your depression?

It doesn't make sense to me that some adoptees say "I have wonderful adoptive parents..BUT...such and such was wrong." If they were that wonderful, what are you missing? What are your parents doing or not doing to cause you this much pain?

My daughter's birth family communicates with us via letters, pictures and phone calls. She will ALWAYS know how much she is loved by both families. But the truth is, I am her parent. I am her mom. I am the one raising her. I hope she never feels these negative feelings that a lot of adoptees describe.

Please enlighten me. I hope nobody has taken offense to my post.

Thanks,
Julie