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Originally Posted by SueZ
I'm sorry, but yes, the DNA link is more powerful. You're concerned about betrayal? Every kid wants to know who they are and where did they come from. I respect you as a Mother, but you haven't been in that position.
You also said that he is contacting his father "who he barely knows". I'm a 41 year old girl who contacted her Dad 30 something years later. I'm adopted to my step dad. My mother will hate me when she finds out. I've also looked into disolving the adoption. or...Dad adopting me back.
It's huge. I can't explain it. My Dad didn't pay child support. The way I see it, that's my mom's issue. It has nothing to do with me.
Your son has a right to know his Dad. It may backfire. You need to be there for him if it does go South. He just may end up with a great relationship and you should support that too. Why are there so many people here looking for their birth parents? There is that "need to know".
My best...
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In my opinion, DNA is not that important. I understand wanting to know where you came from, asking questions and moving on (which is what many people do). Your "true family" is the family that watched you grow up and was there for you every step of the way.
As for the child support, it's not just your mom's problem, it's yours too. It shows lack of caring and commitment by your biodad for your financial security. Sorry if it sounds harsh, not meant to.
Dissolving the adoption, that is your decision. Just know you will deeply hurt the father that raised you and loved you. JMHO... Good luck