[SingleMama2B]

A portion of another response to a post (from Proudmamaof2) got me thinking of all of the "Advice (ha), Comments, Support and Negativity" I received when I told family, friends, coworkers, etc. about adopting, and from Russia.

I was wondering about everybodies experiences....

I felt lucky that my immediate family was, 1st shocked (since I had made the decision to Host a 7 1/2 y/o) and didn't say anything to Mother/stepfather, Father/stepmother, Aunts, Uncles, etc. The only one that knew was my sister (we joined the hosting program together). But the most "well meaning" (yea right) negative comments came from co-worker's!!!!! Granted, I am single and 42 years old. I got everything from "WHY"? To, You have NO Idea what you are getting! Problems, Problems, Problems. Mental, Emotional, etc. problems, and they lie (not the children), and you are going to have pay twice as much as they tell you. These are just a few comments, and not the worst ones. I just shook my head and walked away from them. When I could hold my tongue, I politely said, "You need to do some research, statistics, talk to actual Reputable Agency(s), and people that adopted already.

Why people are sooooo negative when they do NOT know fact, circumstances, etc. is beyond me! Now that my daughter and I home alittle over 3 months, and most everyone (even coworker's) have met her, NOW, they say they understand, and wanted to know more about the program that I used!