[Livingmydream]

I went to a community Seder at Chabad. they served 4% and 6% wine. Regular is 12%! There were kids drinking it, mine drank the Kedem. They did eat the charoset however, but neither of them really like it, so just had a little tated during the seder. My kids go to a day school. I did the preparation for model seder which included charoset for 100. I used Kedem grape juice for that.
I think you need to do whatever you are comfotable in doing. During Shabbos, my kids don't do wine, but I never really gave it any thought until now!