Martha,
That is irritating. And frustrating. And depressing. And....
You get the picture. I totally feel for you. We are in the same boat.
The day BEFORE we went to court (in another town, 1 hour away) I got a call from my son's SW. Turns out due to some major legal issues on their end, not only would I not be going to court the next day....we will not likely appear there for 3-5 YEARS.
Yes, I said YEARS.
Luckily, there is no chance of the placement being overturned. Just some yucky legal issues I can't go into. But I can really empathize how much it STINKS!
I'm here for you, girl! Have a pint of Haagen Dasz on me.
And vent away! You are SO not whiny. I have a 3 yr. old that could put you to the mat on that one.
Sandy
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Proud foster mama of many;
Proud transracial adoptive mama of:
J, age 9-1/2, and Q, age 7 (OMG!!!)
Still hoping for more kids..... 
Nellie (the cat), adopted stray
"Friends are the family you choose."