Well, girls I am 26 going on 27. It has been really interesting and good to hear what each of you have said because it sounds familiar. My husband and I have had a rough first two years of marriage.
Seven months into the marriage I found that I was pregnant and two weeks later I lost the baby. I love babies and have always told my parents and my hubby that I want to adopt, have my own bios and foster parent other children. This was really emotionally draining and I thought I would die of a broken heart. I grew up in a family of six and I love energy in the house:-) My brothers and sister and I were so full of energy and into everything. My mom said we were her little conspirators. She has pictures of us in a huddle planning out what we are going to do next
! My mom said that, of course, I aways plead my case and came out looking innocent.
I thought awhile back that if something horrible had taken my parents out of our lives I would have wanted us to stay together at all costs. My mom said that we would have been a handlful, so I can only imagine why some foster children and adopted waiting children act the way they do. They just need love and help to make it through that time in their lives. I am rambling!
Anyway, I kept telling my husband that I wanted to adopt and foster care now. Meaning right after we lost the baby. We had not really had time to bond and form our routine yet because of other events that all seemed to happen in the first year. Anyway, we waited. Now we have been married over two years, I know not a long time, but enough for us.
We have just begun the licensing process and know it is the right time and we are in unity over the decision. It is very important that the children come into a family opposite of theirs and if you are not ready or your spouse is not ready, the it can cause a lot of stresses to surface. This can be hurtful and unfair to the poor babies coming into your loving family.
Take the advice above to heart and really make sure you and your loved ones are ready, because it will be a wonderful experience from all the families I have observed.
Good Luck!!!!