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Rebecca,
My kids were older when I adopted them (10,11,15,16) and lived with and knew their bio-dad. We made a big deal about it and even celebrate December 11th as "Gage Day" - the day we became a family.
I would keep in mind that your discussion with your son will be not just a single "talk" but a series of discussions as he deals with his feelings. Expect that the first time you talk to him, he may not have much to say - perhaps even "Oh, yea, ok..." and then he'll run off to play.
Boys especially need time to think about things and process their feelings. That's a good thing for moms (and sisters too) to keep in mind.
This also may be a good time to include some talk about the "birds and bees" as you'll have to explain to him why he had a biological dad (and what that means) and now has a different one.
Good luck and remember that it will take him some time to process all those feelings.
Tim
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