Just a quick question for the veterans............Have you ever taken a stand on something and then had it held against you later? I guess I would be a little hesitant in putting my foot down on something (that would be considered not endangering the child) like the phone numbers or being adamant about the children that would benefit from being in your home (I have heard that they may sugar coat some behaviors in the hopes that they will find a family that can "deal" with it, even temporarily). I have read stories here in which fparents have felt as though they didn't get enough placements or that their SW was ignoring their concerns. I guess we don't want to become a thorn in their side and then have them deal with us differently. I have heard that there is favoritism with a few SWs favoring certain families but then having them ignore or be downright mean to others. I guess we would have to pick our battles in the hopes that all that we do for the children will be the most important!
I guess I feel as though we would be at the mercy of the SWs since they seem to be the ones in control. Great advice, though, because being educated about your rights in any situation is greatly beneficial.