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Hi Lea,

Actually ours was the opposite. We have children #6 and 7 of a sibling group of 7 that we're in the process of adopting. The TPR for the other 5 hasn't happened yet. The reason for this was that our kids were so young they either don't remember or never knew their bfamily. The workers felt it was more important to allow them to begin their lives with us because the other 5 had lived with their bmom and knew who they were and where they come from, our 2 didn't/don't.

It has been my experience that it could go either way with TPR. I really don't understand how a parent can be deemed inappropriate for 1 child but not another child but I have seen it happen. That's not the norm, however. The way it was explained to us is that a specific child could be the scapegoat for abuse. Well, IMHO, if that child's removed who's the next logical scapegoat??? The worker's couldn't answer that question.

Honestly, I'd adopt each as they came available. I don't know why except to say that I'd want to "be done" with the foster care side of things as soon as possible and give the child a sense of permanency.

Best of luck.

Michelle