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Now the hard part. . .how to tell our son. He's 7. My husband and I were married when he was 2--starting dating when he was an infant. He has no idea of any of this. . .we want to break the news gently and in a way that his young mind can understand. We don't want to wait until he's older and it comes as a huge shock--like in adolescence when he doesn't like us anyway.
We always planned on telling him once it was done and then having a big party to celebrate. We're going to get him some kind of meaningful gift with an engraving. Hopefully when he sees how joyful this is, he'll realize how special he is to our family and how much my husband loves him. They're already 2 of a kind.
I've read a lot of other's posts on this site about this topic and I have some idea--just plan on saying that someone else helped make him and that that person didn't know how to be a parent but his daddy (my husband) loved him so much that he adopted him and made him his own and wished he'd helped make him. Something along those lines. I'm looking for some encouragement and advice from those who've had to go through this. We love our son and biggest fear is the "real dad" expression. I plan on avoiding that word, or parent, or anything. Just plan on saying a person who helped make him--because that was his contribution. He's never been around. Your guidance is sincerely appreciated! Rebecca.
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