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I know it must be hard, I dont think you should question your Christian values if you say no to a situation that really won't work. You would want to welcome these boys into a family that was able to give them their all. From my experience and people I talked to, every call from the agency we ladies are ready to say yes to, I mean how could you say no to a helpless child? But it is helpful to have a hubby who can help you stick to your guns a bit. We did have to loosen some of our "requirements" a little, but it is helpful to have someone who is not just dealing with their heart. Parenting is a lifelong journey, you wouldnt want to take on a situation you both are 100% on board for.
Good Luck