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Originally Posted By Marcy

Hi everybody,

I've already posted this to a couple of other board, but this one looks to have the most recent additions so I'll try here too :-)

Six months ago we adopted a baby girl via a fairly closed adoption (non-identifying info which was the birthmom's choice). She was 28 days old when she came home to us. Ever since then I've been putting together two identical baby books - one for us and one for the birthmom (who requested pics once a year). The books include photos, a record of "firsts", locks of hair from the first haircut, the usual stuff that goes in baby books. I personally thought this was a super idea, but there are many of my friends and family (who, by the way, are not touched by adoption other than ours) who think that I went overboard and that I will only hurt the birthmom more by including stuff like the lock of hair etc. They think I should just send a few pictures and a letter saying how she's doing and that should be it. They base this on the fact that she wanted this fairly closed adoption plan.

Could you guys maybe give me some feedback on this? I'd very much appreciate it.

Marcy