[LisaCA]

hi guys,

I need some advice. we are planning to have dd's christening out of town at my family's church (episcopal) in Rhode Island. I consider it my family's church since i was baptized there and it was my mom's family church. since dd is named after my mom's recently deceased sister, we thought it would be a great way to welcome her to the family. We're also having a blessing at dh's church in NY a week later (he's episcopalian too).

here's the problem: we may invite a few of my aunt's lifelong friends who would love to see dd's christening and live literally minutes away (she's named after recently deceased aunt). I know they'd be offended that we didn't invite them or at least see them while we're there. we're not sure what to do afterward: we don't have a home nearby (the church is 3000 miles from our home) and we don't want to impose on my only living relative who is nearby (the rest are in the other part of the state). so do we have to put some major thing together at a restaurant, and is it rude if we don't? Money is rather short here since I'm a sahm as of May and we're saving for next adoption. My FIL is throwing a party for dd's blessing in NY, but that's a 4 hr drive from my family church and the following week. Any ideas? thanks,

Lisa