[LisaCA]

I don't think there should be an age limit, esp. when bparents are selecting paparents. There is an ethical responsibility of parenting, particularly us older folks (we're 43 and 44) to have all our ducks in a row. we have a will, and are working out our trusts, living wills, etc. we have assorted potential godparents lined up worst case scenario, we have a college fund, massive amounts of insurance, etc. also since we're old and our parents are even older (late 70s), we worry about dd not having grandparents in her life. Luckily with our open adoption, we have birthgrandparents who are in their 50s who we hope will be in her life.

it is a very different story now that more folks are older and having children. when I grew up, I was the only one whose parents were in their late 30s when they had me. all my friends parents were in their 40s while mine were in their 50s (and looked it-bad genes). I swore I wouldn't do this-now look at me, a new mom at the age of 43 . there are things that i bring to the table that I didn't have in my 20s, or 30s: I'm more patient, financially stable, and emotionally stable. I've traveled, partied, lived and had tons of fun. staying home with my daughter and missing all those movies, dinners out etc is a privilege and I'm not missing out on anything. we're having a blast .

not sure about assisted reproduction since the life and health of the mother is at stake as well.