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Originally Posted By Keagan

Pam,

Please believe me I didn't read your post until after I had posted than I said... "OH NO! She touched on this and it looks like I'm refuting her!" I saw that you folks had home schooled... and you said much more eloquently and directly what I was headed towards. That being there are those who like to PRETEND that there is no racism, and eat only whole wheat, tofu, and use Canola oil. That is a very spooky perspective and to throw a child on top of that will only force them deeper underground, or just maybe the slap in the face they've needed.

I refuse to enter a debate about cross-cultural, or inter-racial anything. For me it only plays in the hands of the perverts who are intent on controlling others. Love is indeed colorblind. I may have shared with the forum the day I was at the Ross store, I saw a little boy around my son's age, 12, and he called out to his dad who to my surprise was white. I thought, "He's adopted and that guy is indeed his dad, the relationship and love was evident." The boy wasn't self-conscious, it will only be when one of the meanies latch on to their family and try to inject their venom. But from what I saw in those few seconds I suspect their love will fend that off.

We're preparing for number two, we've locked into one, and another two on the secondary short list, all seem pretty certain. One of the boys is white and live with my son when he was in foster care. The primary boy that I'm considering while black appears more white. You can't believe the internal grappling I'm doing over that one. It's frankly easier to adopt a child who is white, fewer issues to consider.

I'm babbling because I don't want to appear to be one of the scary people. I believe that (almost) every child deserve a permanent home. I've encountered some that you'd have to stay on top of your insurance, and keep a watchdog by your bed. Not the world for me. But while your heart is pure, that are many more whose heart are twisted and black.