Originally Posted By
Pam
Not everyone who adopts African-American children can live in a diverse neighborhood. However, there are tons of African-American kids who need homes, especially the boys. I am going on my fourth African-American child and am thrilled with all of them. We have one close friend who is African-American, and he really helps us, but our neighborhood is not that diverse yet (it is getting better). The three African-American boys we adopted were just waiting around simply due to race and sex. They had no others interested in them except us. We didn't have to compete with 100 families for commitee. and the kids really did need homes....we needed each other, so to speak, so it was good. We homeschool, so we include African-American history in our program, more than most people probably do. Our neighbors treat our kids the same as any kids. The workers who have placed these kids into our care have been black themselves and were not concerned about us or where we lived....they just wanted to place these kids who so badly needed permanancy. We keep in touch with t heir foster parents, who are all black...so thats another source of support for us and our k ids. I can't tell you how happy I am with our family (which also includes two Asian kids). If we have waited around for caucasian kids, who generally DONT have a really hard problem getting placed, we may not have such a large family and some neat children. Strangely, our neighborhood started becoming more diverse just as we adopted our first African-American child.
We have had no bad experiences with our kids due to race. Unless you live in a neighborhood that is clearly bigoted, I say go for it. We will never be sorry that we did. We needed them and they needed us, and it feels very natural and relaxed to us.
NJ is a great state for interracial adoption. Delaware is too. But there are no states that prohibit or will not do an interracial adoption. Frankly, they mostly just want loving homes for their kids.
If you want more info, or are interested in certain kids I know about, e-mail me
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Pam