Spaypets - do you cook it? I"m unfamiliar with the dishes but at the temple I worked at, most of the children were involved in the rituals with small bits of Maneshevitz (sp?) It truly is low-alcohol and very sweet. Judaism is their culture and the children I met were all proud members of the temple.
and very involved.
So, I would not be alarmed to have your dd experience that 'wine'. I have been told that it is a good idea to hide it from teens though.
Maia