[spaypets]

Ok, please tell me if I'm being too careless with my DD....

My brother's family is joining us for the Passover seder (the big meal to rember the Exodus from Egypt). They're family includes an almost 6 year old and almost 3 year old. My SIL emails me and asks if I make my charoset with wine. Charoset is a dish that is part of the ceremony. It's made with nuts, apples (or other fruit, though apples are traditional), honey, wine (Maneschevitz (sp)--not much alcohol) and cinnamon. I said yes, but that I only use a couple of tablespoons to give it the right texture -- it's supposed to symbolize the mortar used by the enslaved Israelites. Anyway I served it to DD last year, who was then 2, now 3, with no problems (although, truthfully, she might not have eaten it).

Well, she's bringing her own alcohol free (I actually thought she'd balk at the nuts -- she won't let her kids have nuts until they're 3). I have grape juice for the kids to drink during the service, but it simply never occurred to me to be worried about a tiny bit of wine in the charoset?

So here's my question--am I wrong for being unconcerned about the wine in the charoset for my dd? And while we're on the topic--at what age do you start having the children have wine at Shabbat (Sabbath) and other festivals? I _know_ that I was having wine by the time I was 6 -- what I can't remember is whether I was 4.