[sugarbabysmommy]

Yes, we acknowledged our child's birthmother on Mother's Day. I understand your being torn. We discussed this ahead of time actually and I'm very glad we did. Even if we hadn't I would have still acknowledged her. I would hate to hurt her by sending a card, but I would really hate to hurt her if she was aching to be acknowledged by me and wasn't. If you do send a card it opens the door to ask her after the fact if this is what she wants, if you don't send it how will you ask her later if you should have? BTW, the baptism sounds like a very special day. It could be a very hard day for her, so don't be suprised if she doesn't stay long or hangs back. It does bring up an interesting topic, how will she be introduced? You could ask her.