[Shellemarie]

I need Alex,
Wow... (HUG) When I read your post, My heart definitely went out to you. I am so sorry for your loss.
I think that adoption should never be a "battle" between spouses, nor should the end result be one spouse "winning" vs divorce. Adoption is such an undertaking with peaks and valleys faced by a marital TEAM. Is there a main reason why your husband is dead set against adopting? My husband and I have talked about adopting off and on now for almost 24 months, and we haven't been on the same page until now. His main concern has always been financial, and believe me, there have been times when I wanted to just make him do what I want to do. But my saving grace has truly been prayer. I had to (and still do) continually pray that my heart is in the right place. I also prayed that it is God's will and God's timing. Not my own. I also prayed that if it is meant to be that we adopt, that my husband's heart be opened to it. Because I know deep down that I would NOT want my husband to solely be on board just for MY sake. It wouldn't be fair to anyone involved in this miraculous experience. I want him to authentically desire this, because if he didn't, I believe it would definitely surface down the road, either during the adoption process or afterward when we would have our child home. If you and your husband are at an impasse, I recommend you talk to someone you can trust, like a marriage/family therapist or a pastor. I sincerely hope things get better, and I hope I have helped in some little way.
Sincerely,
Shelley