I need a group too!
While I have 4 kids and am a sahm, I long for a bit more intellectual converstations that have nothing to do with wiping butts, temper tantrums, housework, homework, and don't get me started on the "my little johnny is just perfect!" stories...
I dont fit in that well at the mommy groups because I have no interest in being "supermom" and got tired of the guilt and "that look" I got when I said "sometimes being a stay at home mom is not my favorite thing to do." Sue me...I love my kids but don't always love my "job". Don't we all dislike our jobs at times?? (and believe me...I'm not saying all mommy groups are like this etc., just how it was for me)
At any rate...hang in there...sometimes you have to feel things out and try different groups etc. to find the right one. I found a book club to help me stay "connected" with the grown up world, and just by chance found another mom at the bus stop who feels a lot like I do. We are now great friends and while yes, we do discuss our kids etc., we also find other things to talk about which is perfect for my needs.
Sometimes it just takes a little time to find your niche...