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hi,
we did a regular domestic adoption and are negotiating with bdad for a legally binding open adoption agreement. I think you should view this document as a bare minimum, what you're comfortable with. Yes, you can go to court and change it, but this has an impact on the relationship with bfamilies. If you're uncomfortable with unsupervised visits, then say so. bdad sounds as if he's unsure about the whole thing. maybe having a sw explain what an open adoption agreement is, that you're willing to negotiate it, is a good way to go, but not to pressure fdad into relinquishing. It is good to reassure him that he'll be able to see his child, that his child will know who bdad is.
take care,
lisa
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-first time amom to dd, born 7/7/04
-placed in our arms by a very loving bmom 7/9/04
-bfather's rights terminated 9/7/04
-just connected with bdad!!! 2/9/05
-visited bfamilies for a week, awesome trip 6/05
-bfather signed legally binding open adoption
agreement 7/05
-finalized (woohoo!) 18th of November 2005
-Thinking about adoption #2!
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