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Phases ...
All children, whether bio or adopted, go through phases of development (emotional and physical) where they aren't sure how they fit into their world ... times where they really hate their parents for rules, expectations, etc. (especially between ages 11-15) and other times when they attach like velcro ... so there is no easy answer to your question.
I agree with Brandy above - each child attaches differently - some immediately, some when they are ready and some not at all ... jealousy is often an issue that adoptive parents have to be on top of with other children in the home - again either bio or foster or adoption placements.
When adopting you have to have the courage to love and that courage takes the commitment to love a child through the good, the bad and the ugly and to know when to reign them in too tightly and when to let them go but most of all when to get additional help (therapy, etc.).
Hope this helps!
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