[BrandyHagz]

Every child and every adoptive home is different.

There are several adoptees on this forum alone who never dealt with issues surrounding their adoption, and in fact, bonded very will with their adoptive parents and grew up feeling like they belonged and were connected to their adoptive parents. One of those members, dl, has a thread located somewhere on the forums where she discusses this in detail.

You mentioned searching, are you contemplating a closed adoption?

Keep in mind, generally, the most outspoken are those who’ve had bad experiences (this is true in any type of situation)…those who’ve grown up happy, healthy and bonded don’t generally speak out…mostly because there just isn’t anything to speak about as far as they are concerned!

Raising an adoptee is different than raising a biological child…adoption will always be a dynamic of their life…it may not play a large roll, but it will always be there. There will be things that you will have to deal with, namely the questions, which you won’t have with a biological child.