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Thanks for your replies. Bdad has a criminal history of drug charges and was in prison for 2 yrs due to an assault. He is 25 and has fathered 3 children with 3 women of which he doesn't have a relationship with. He is in back support for child support to one child to a tune of $20,000. He is living with his mom (who lost him to foster care due to her drug history). His sister lost her children due to drug history. His first UA was + for marijuana, subsuquent ones have been negative.
He doesn't have a driver's license due to unpaid tickets.
He really doesn't have a lot going for him in many areas and I would hate to see him separate her from her brother as well as from us, we have raised her from birth with the intent to adopt them together. Bmom's rights are close to termination(long story here but you can catch that on my Foster care to adoption what is it like link "struggling whether to adopt or not".
We aren't trying to manipulate the bdad but he asked expressed confusion as what to do as is 'on the fence" as whether to relinquish or not.
Keep the comments coming.