[crick]

I agree with the others in that you should not agree to visitation etc. without really knowing what you want, are comfortable with etc. However I also had another thought...

To me it sounds like the CW is proposing this simply because it will be easier to entice the dad to voluntarily relinquish his rights. That's shady in my opinion because he could be promised all sorts of things simply to give up his rights and then later on, you might decide "no, this isn't what we want". To me, it's similar to promising a bmom in a private adoption all sorts of things only to close contact as soon as the ink is dry on the finalization papers. It's not the right thing to do in my opinion.

I don't know the specifics of why he is not able to parent or why the child was removed from parental care, but until a judge or himself relinquishes rights, he is still the legal parent and has rights. I would hope that his rights are recognized and supported, especially if this is a situation where he did not know of the child and has just now come forward etc.

If there is a valid reason for the child having been removed from his care, then I would probably follow the protocol of having the judge terminate his rights. If it's found later that the system "encouraged" the dad to relinquish, it could cause a lot of problems and heartbreak later on....

Crick