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D.O.B. 2/8/1969
Trenton, New Jersey

After reading so many threads about why birthmothers do not search for their lost children, I must say that I do understand the fears involved in finding someone lost for so long. Will the child resent me? Will he/she ask me for financial support? Will I be able to keep a healthy relationship with my other children?

I feel the need to state (even though no one may read this) without reservation that I am a well adjusted, well educated, and certainly not naive 36 year old. What many of us adoptees desire is simply to know a medical history or perhaps the circumstances of our birth. For any birthparent who may be reading this, certainly there are no guarantees in life, but you made the selfless decision once for your child's welfare, now make it again and give us all some peace of mind.