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Originally Posted By Pam

I'm not real clear on this, but it seems that the girls are not residing in your state right now (although it could be the other way around)....if they are in the custody of Florida and you live in NY, that's a problem. Since a relative has been found for one of the kids, it is absolutely the norm that they would try to place both girls in the same home. Siblings are only seperated if absolutely necessary. I understand why they are trying to talk this relative into taking both girls.
Relatives will always be given preference over non-relatives in adoption, if they are fit. Do you have a completed homestudy? Are you licensed? If so, you may try to ask if YOU can adopt both girls. IMO, no biological bond, other than parents, is more important than the sibling bond...so even if she would have relatives near you, would she be near her sister? Guess I'm unclear again.
If you have a completed, updated homestudy, the best thing you can do is to ask to adopt both girls. I'm sure a priority is to keep the girls together.
Good luck.