Well, I don't like to shill the book on these boards, but since you are having difficulties, you might want to check it out by
clicking here. I think you'll find it helpful.
Best of luck.
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Nelson Handel, author of
"REACHING OUT: The Guide to Writing a Terrific Dear Birthmother Letter", available at
AdoptionShop.com or wherever adoption books are sold.
Moderator of "Dear Birthmother Letter and Networking" discussion group.