[momo tx]

I am also going to be posting this on the Adopting Multiple Children simultaneously board, but I thought I'd post here, also, to get insight from you all.

I haven't read any books yet about attachment, but have gone through a few recently archived posts from the last few weeks or so. I sense that the experts in the literature are recommending that at least one parent stay at home with the child for 6 months before allowing other caregivers to care for the child. Admittedly, I am concerned as my husband and I plan to adopt two very young children from Kazakhstan (either two infants or an infant and a toddler - we currently have no children), but we also both work full time. Although I would love to stay home full time, that is not a realistic option right now. I plan to take leave under FMLA, but with the possibility of being in Kaz for 6-7 weeks, we are looking at me staying at home with the children for only an additional 4-5 weeks before going back to work. I would hate to think that being a two-income family might work against us. Maybe we're being too ambitious (for lack of a better word) in adopting two children? It's just that we would love to open our home and hearts to two children. I'm also curious as to how the single mothers are dealing with attachment issues or if they've had problems, esp. since they would have to go back to work eventually? Maybe I'm just thinking too hard about it or overanalyzing it?

Thanks in advance,
Maureen