Thank you for the responses. I appreciate the advice. I did speak with my mother briefly today to let her know we are moving forward with adoption. I also mentioned "broke the news" that we are open to any race. She reacted how I expected.
She thinks it is a bad idea. I told her we are excited to adopt a child, and to us it did not matter the race. She thinks I am naive, and there are too many cultural differences. It didn't seem to matter to her that I have researched the differences, and read many stories on here, and know where I need to go for information and support.
I am saddened about this. Rehedded you are correct in your assumption that I would be willing to sever ties with my mother. We actually had not spoken for 3 years after the death of my father, and are just in the rebuilding stages of our relationship now. I really don't know how to sit down and discuss this with her at this point.
Hubby and I still have some time to sort things out and to decide what is best. I just do not want to close the door to a child because someone in my family refuses to change with the times.
But what I want even less is to open my home to a child and have them feel discriminated against within their own family.