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So, if you are prepared to protect, nurture and support your child NO MATTER WHAT THE COST (including terminating all contact with your mom) then go for it.
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Absolutely. I've often said that if a couple has to 'talk themselves into adopting transracially, then they shouldn't do so.
What Jensboys mentions is very true. Four of our children are transracial adoptions. Two are Asian, two are AA. Two are grown; two are toddlers. Before we ventured into transracial adoption, we pretty much knew where everyone was going to stand....and considered that anyone else we might know, who would otherwise think negatively(which would have surprised us)...just wouldn't have been a part of our lives.
We did not/do not live in an extremely racially diverse place. We lived/ and do now live, on a farm which has been a great place to raise all of the kids. However, the nearest little tiny town-- a few miles away, is a rotten little place, to say the least.
We knew all along that full acceptance of our kids might be questionable. But.......a few miles farther, is a college town with more diversity. It is there that we have basically 'made our home'.....where we go to church, shop, have our friends, for the most part.
For the two children who are already grown, the rotten little town did accept them----at least for the most part, and thus far, what little we've experienced with our younger two, has been pretty favorable.
However, as I stated, our main interests do not lie with that population.....so we have basically taken it out of our lives.
That has been much easier to do, than if we would have had to separate ourselves from our families.......but we knew 'what the score was' before adopting our first.
It is a huge consideration...and shouldn't be taken lightly, IMO.
Sincerely,
Linny